Saturday, March 28, 2020

New World, Like it or Not

Let's face it, the world we knew is gone. At least for this moment in time.

I like to think of myself as a change agent - that means I am not risk adverse by nature, but rather embrace change as a way to move forward. And hopefully the place where we end up is better than that we left. Change can be exciting.

Recent events are changing our world. I'm talking about the current pandemic and shifts in international thinking toward nationalism instead of globalism. Layer in the swift advances in technology that seems to be constantly upgrading how we do things. It's really small wonder people are feeling disconnected, confused and threatened, instead of excited.

These feelings I believe are the biggest reasons for countries to withdraw into themselves. People yearn to regain the feeling of belonging to something that matters, to be part of something everyone agrees is sacred and worthwhile support and defending... hence the resurgence of nationalism. The problem though is that world no longer exists. You can't go back to the way it once was. We can only go forward.

Sadly, some of the leaders in influential countries who are of late emerging seem to lack in fundamental leadership skills and qualities citizens once took for granted. This has resulted in creating factions within the populations; those who support the new leadership and those who do not; creating tension in political systems. For a change agent, tension is normally a good thing because it identifies those who will be supportive and can be drafted to support change efforts. And, that's now happening on a national level.

The question is, is change on the national level too big to manage?

Can you get a sufficient level of support to make the change happen and make it stick?

Do you have the right leadership to drive successful change, and do you know the success factors so you can measure them?

Has the change agenda been properly vetted and planned to ensure all risks are identified and have mitigation tactics prepared in advance?

Is there a fall-back position for each strategic milestone to safeguard from complete failure if things don't go well?  In other words, is there a safety net in place?

I don't know how things will end up and how many people will die in this pandemic. My hope is the messages of hope and calls for fortitude to get us all through this get through all the noise... this is what people need to hear.

As for the grand vision of change, I think we should leave politics lie while we treat our sick and dying.

Sunday, March 22, 2020

Coronovirus Challenges & Burdens - YOU can Help!

In this age of the Coronovirus it's important to keep things in perspective. But, it's even more important to put attention and energy into helping others so they can withstand the isolation, withdrawal and separation from life as we knew it before the pandemic hit.

You can feel like you're on house arrest or you can look at being home as a time for yourself. I know I'm always the last person I take time for. Now that things are slowed down and we are restricted from going out and about, it's all about taking care of you and your loved ones. But, there's positives about this situation too, and one doesn't need to look hard to find ways to turn this negative into an opportunity to do good.

It's not lost on me how difficult it is for parents right now trying to keep their children safe, healthy and occupied while schools and childcare are closed. At this point in my life my kids don't live with me. In some ways I wish they were here so I could make certain they are doing all the right things to stay safe and healthy. But, I also know we gave them all the tools they need to be responsible adults. And, we keep in touch so I know they're alright. I feel compassion for people who now find themselves needing to simultaneously fill the role of parent, teacher, recreation director and social worker for their house-bound children.

Our parents all passed away in 2018. Forgive me for thinking this, but I'm glad they are not being subjected to dealing with the coronovirus. This situation would have been very difficult on them and its a relief on us to not be dealing with it. I feel such compassion for people who do have elderly people they need to care for in these trying times.

The people who I have the most concern for are the health care professionals who are on the front lines dealing with the sick. My daughter works at a hospital and isn't having to provide care of the sick, so she is helping raise funds to provide those who are sick or helping care for the sick with comforts they can't get while quarantined at the hospitals. We need to find ways to support these people as they are away from their families and loved ones, to boaster them in any way we can to keep them from collapsing under the weight of their burdens. Small things can make a big difference. For example, yesterday we ordered cases of individual packages of crayons to give isolated patients and care workers so they can fill their time coloring instead of looking at the walls.  The hospital is printing coloring pages to give out. My daughter started an effort to collect donated tablets to lend to patients without their own smartphones so they can facetime or email with loved ones while in isolation units. These are just a couple samples of little things that will mean a lot in this crisis.

Imagine how much good we can do from the safety of our homes!  So I'm urging everyone to check with your local charities and other sources to see how you can help support the sick and those who care for them. We also need to look out for the homeless, those who are helpless and those who are hopeless. A phone call to check on them goes a long way to life someone's spirits. A surprise gift showing up is a great way to create cheer and even inspire others to pay-it-forward. I believe humans have great desire to do good. Tapping into the good each of us can provide to someone who needs it is a real way to create change and help us all make it through this crisis.

Final Wishes

Being habitually practical and believing in planning, I've decided to document my last wishes so my family isn't left in the dark when I'm gone.

I know the timing of this coincides with the cornovirus pandemic, and that's what brought doing this to front of mind. In addition to my formal Last Will in Testament, I want to leave what's called Personal Instructions  to help my family make arrangements after I pass. These are end-of-life wishes carefully and formally outlined to save my family from a lot of stress, uncertainty, and confusion when it comes to carrying out my last wishes.


Never afraid of death because I know its just part of the natural cycle of life, I found writing this statement to be an interesting exercise. Like any good plan, it made me think carefully about my intentions and desired outcomes.




Tuesday, March 17, 2020

Relax, It's Fine

I live in MD and though we've had relatively few cases of the Coronvirus, things are shutting down. And I am perfectly fine with this. Safety first!

The company where I work was ahead of the crisis and we've been working from home since late February. I'm loving it. I'm so much more productive at home, and I don't waste time and energy commuting. My typical daily commute ranges from 1.25 hours to 2 hours each way. I certainly am not missing that.

As for interacting with people, we're still meeting and working on our team while in different locations. Not that much different from normal for us.

What I'm really loving is being with my dog all day long. We can take our dogs to work, but my commute is to brutal for him to take. He's not very good in cars.

My husband his here with me too. I've seen some couples starting to complain on social media about too much being together. I don't see that happening to us. He's doing his thing in another room while I work in my office space.

The brightest spot in all this is going outside.

I've been walking my dog during my lunch and other breaks, so I'm getting fresh air and sunlight every day. Since it's feeling like Spring now, it's such a pleasure to be outside (despite seasonal allergies starting to hit me!)

I believe we'll all make it through this pandemic is we don't panic. May be too late to say this because of all the runs on local grocers and other stores for toilet paper and other staples. My husband asked one man why he needed 5 cases of bottled water and the man had no answer.

We have no idea how long this situation will persist. The best thing to do is practice social distancing and better yet, stay away from other people. Easy for me to say while I sit here in the suburbs. I know its much more difficult for city dwellers (like my son and daughter).

Think before going out and play it safe!

We can all use a break from the rat race.

Wednesday, March 11, 2020

Hindsignt

I just re-read a post from 2009 about my daughter choosing a college different from the one I preferred. Looking back at how things have worked out so far is a real gift.

At the time, I wanted her to go to a new program for TV Writing at a pretty prestigious school. I was so proud that she was accepted into the program. I knew at the time part of my elation was vicariously living through her. That would have been something I would have loved to be able to do. Instead, she decided to go to a private small college in state and to study psychology. She flourished in that program, graduating with honors and many accolades in just three years! She went on to complete a 5-year master/doctorate program, and became a Doctor of Clinical Psychology at age 26.

I am so very proud of her that I am busting my buttons!

She is making a real difference in people's lives!

My daughter works with patients who have suffered trauma and PTSD. She is working in Chicago where violence is higher than in many other large cities. She works very hard and puts in many, many hours, not just doing patient care, but also fund-raising for money to buy her patients things they need to aid in their recovery, but they cannot afford to buy themselves.

My daughter is selfless, almost to a fault.

She takes on additional duties to cover when there were staffing shortages. She lets patients call her at any time, not just during office hours. She holds people's hands when they are suffering and stays with them when they relapse, giving them support and if needed, a shoulder to cry on.

As I l write this, the stark difference in how things turned out from what I had envisioned is simply amazing.

The lesson I learned while living through this with my daughter is this... nobody has a crystal ball to foretell the future. The future is what you make of it!

Monday, March 9, 2020

New Chapter

I'm feeling a shift in my subconscious.

I know this shift is caused by recognizing that I'm aging. We all know we get older with every passing day. But to actually realize I'm an older person is life changing.

Until recently, I never thought about my age. I assumed it would always be this way. Inside, I feel like I'm the same person I've been since I came fully into the age of reason. Two things have changed this for me.

First, the realization that my body isn't able to do the same things it always could. I'm not a fitness type person and I know I have not been kind to my physical self. I've even voiced concerns in the last few years about needing to get into better physical shape being an imperative as the window for doing so was starting to close. It's the little things that I see beginning to change such as being less strong so lifting or shifting objects is now more difficult. It's a wake-up call.

Now that the cornovirus is sweeping through the country (and across the planet), I realize for the first time, I fall into a demographic that needs to be more cautious. In past pandemics, I just went about my business as normal. Not this time - fortunately, I work for a company that has closed all physical sites in favor of working from home.

Of course there are other signs of aging taking place - getting some silver strands in my hair (and worse, eyebrows!) and thankfully, very few wrinkles (only those lines around my eyes from squinting - why do I not wear my reading glasses!) But, none of these has bothered me.

I know I can weather these latest indications by doing a daily fitness routine and by limiting exposure to other people.

It occurs to me this is just one more thing nobody told us about - you know that list of things your mother never shared...

- How to deal with work/life balance stress
- What menopause is going to do to your body and how to cope
- How to survive losing a parent
- What its like to grow old and how to do this gracefully

Getting old is something not everyone gets to experience. I realize I've been blessed and I truly look forward to making the most of this new experience as I've done at every other stage of my life. I just wish I'd been better prepared. Feels like this happened over night!

Saturday, March 7, 2020

Panic at the Grocery Store

I'd rather see a panic at the disco (name of a musical group) than a panic at the grocery store.

We are now if full-blown coronavirus panic and it ain't pretty.
(https://www.washingtonpost.com/world/2020/03/07/coronavirus-live-updates/)

I believe some of this panic fire is being fanned by the media in search of eyeballs and ratings. Sensationalism sells. Putting aside the misinformation being promoted, here are common sense prevention methods everyone should be following to keep healthy and prevent further spread of the virus.

  • Wash your hands with hot water and soap for at least 20 seconds (long enough to sing one verse of Happy Birthday to You) multiples times a day, especially after touching things other people have touched
  • Avoid going to places where large groups of people gather (where people with the virus but have not yet developed symptoms may be present)
  • Don't touch your face after touching things other people have touched (before washing your hands with hot water and soap for at least 20 seconds)

This advice is not new.

My mother taught me to do this when I was a child, especially during cold and flu season.

I'm fortunate enough to work for an enlightened employer who has everyone working from home for the next two weeks to prevent spreading the virus. Yes, my company cares about its people. This is also a smart business tactic to protect the company's investment in highly skilled technical workforce upon whom their ability to deliver depends. It's also the way we help protect our customers, upon whom our business depends.

Yet, highest level government officials are saying in public forums, which get televised, that people should go about their normal business including going to work and to school. I'm not trying to make a political statement here, but it does seem irresponsible to down play the seriousness of sick people mingling with healthy people. And, never once did these officials mention the 3 simple things already noted that everyone should be doing. EVERYONE!

Things are not dire at this moment. But considering there are already runs on the grocery and warehouse stores, I can see this can easily get out of control.

I guess its every person for themself in today's environment, which goes beyond sad. It's actually dangerous.

Thursday, March 5, 2020

May You Live in Interesting Times

There is a Chinese curse which says “May you live in interesting times.” Like it or not, we live in interesting times. These are times of danger and uncertainty; but this is also the most creative of any time in the history of mankind.
Technological advances that are life-changing appear so rapidly people now suffer from decision-paralyses, afraid to buy now because the next better things is just about to be released.
Social media has increased the amount of information we can get, but with this comes disinformation, so what can you trust to make decisions?
Medical advances are extending lives, but as people age and live longer, the quality of life becomes a valid question that we have not yet figured out how to handle.
Global consumerism makes the variety of products and services we can purchase much broader, but the connected supply-chain has introduced cyber threats as well as increasing our risk of pandemics.
In recent history, we've learned how our very national politics can be influenced and disrupted by foreign players, driving distrust for our institutions and government entities.
But, the most interesting of all is the breakdown of our community fabric.
People were once united by living in the same geographic location, attending the same schools and churches, and living at the same economic level. Today, based on ease of moving around and social experiments over the last 40 years, people are less connected. Being less connected with your neighbors leads to less interaction and having less in common, which results in less understanding, compassion and trust. Distrust is the foundation upon which division is created.
Our country is severely divided.
This is a curse I hope we survive.

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Wednesday, March 4, 2020

I'm Free

I'm free!

I do not have any other people to care for or worry about - I'm free!

I have saved enough money to support myself for the rest of my life if I live responsibly - I'm free!

I hold no grudges toward anybody - I'm free!

I like myself - I'm free!

I do what I want every day - I'm free!

I work because I enjoy what I'm doing, not because I need to work - I'm free!

I control my own schedule most of the time - I'm free!

I own my cars - I'm free!

I can pay off my mortgage whenever I chose to do so - I'm free!

I have accomplished most of the things I wanted in my life - I'm free!

I have a loving family - I'm free!

I have a loving dog - I'm free!

I live in a place where I feel safe - I'm free!

I live where I am surrounded by nature - I'm free!

I feel the great spirit working in me - I'm free!

The list goes on...

Sure there are things I don't have, but why dwell on them when I have so much more.

I'm free!

Monday, March 2, 2020

America, We Need a Better Primary Process

Let me make one thing perfectly clear (quoting Bernie Sanders), I am an Independent voter!

My leanings are libertarian and I'm getting more conservative the older I get. Usually, I'm not very engaged during elections. I listen to the news, read what people post on social media and make up my own mind. I don't want to talk politics here, but I want to talk about our political apparatus.

Our primary system of scheduling some states voting ahead of others is just crazy! The six states with the most electors are California (55), Texas (38), New York (29), Florida (29), Illinois (20), and Pennsylvania (20). Then, tomorrow is Super Tuesday and fourteen state primaries and the American Samoa caucuses will take place, amounting to 1357 pledged delegates—33.8% of the nationwide total. In other words, it could be over tomorrow night (or when all the votes are counted) and the blue candidate will be known.

But what about the rest of us who didn't yet cast our votes? Our choices aren't going to matter. This is wrong morally and constitutionally.

So, I am proposing the following change to be followed by BOTH parties. This arrangement gives every voter a fair chance to have their vote count. It also would put less pressure on the candidates, who are running all over the country doing town halls and far too many debates, costing them money and their health. Let them save their energy for the race that really matters - the general election!

Here is my proposal:

1) Divide the country and territories into regional voting blocks - I think 6 is a good number

2) Hold voting within all the territories on the same day - so you get a more pure outcome

3) Give campaigns 45 days to take stock of the 1st vote results and decide if they continue

4) Hold a second primary with those left in the race

5) Winner goes to the convention - if its still close, let the convention decide

Now, I know this is a sound proposal that would work except for one thing - Politics! Our political parties do not want this to be a fair process. They want us to think it is, but it is not. There is too much money and power at stake to change anything. But I need to ask, when is enough enough? Every cycle things get worse.
So, this pop-eyed optimist hopes there is a chance to bring sanity into our election process.